Letting go; Moving on.

It’s one of those things that people say, you can’t move
on until you let go of the past. Letting go is the easiest part, it’s the
moving on part that’s painful. So sometimes we fight it, try and keep things
the same. Things can’t stay the same though.
At some point, you just have to let go. Move on.
Because no matter how painful it is, it`s the only way we grow. 

-Meredith Grey

We have all had
those moments in life where you realize things aren’t the same anymore. Whether
it’s revisiting your childhood home, the road you grew up on, or even trying to
reconnect with old friends. You realize you have taken different paths in life,
that the memories you had in the past were just that; in the past. I know the feeling of being in a bad place, of finding
a picture or hearing a song that brings up those memories and all you want is
to go back and be in the happy place. You try so hard to relive those moments,
even try reliving them with the same people but it’s just not the same. You
have to accept that things have changed, that the life your living now is not
how it was back then. You have to let go of what could have been and what
should have been to be able to really accept who & where you are now.

Moving on, letting
go; that doesn’t mean you have to forget. Remembering the past, the good and
bad, it’s what helps you grow. I have had a lot of pain in my past, so much I
didn’t think I would ever move on from it. I have been molested, brokenhearted, attacked and beaten down emotionally to the point I started doubting
myself. I started believing everything that was said to me, and I lost a part
of me that I felt like I would never get back. Until I woke up one day and
thought ‘Enough is enough. You are beautiful inside and out. You will move past
everything you have been through and come out stronger in the end.’ That was
when I decided to turn the bad in my life into something good.

I took the bad and
made it into something positive, something I can use as a way to have closure.
I decided to write a book kind of based on what happened to me but have it turn
out different. When people ask what I am writing about and I give them the
short version most are baffled by the fact that I would want to relive those
details in my life on paper. But they don’t get it. I decided that I wasn’t
going to let the negative in my past affect how I was today, because who I am
now is the best version of me that I have ever been. I can’t change the past,
nor would I want too. It has made me the women I am today. So why not share my
story with others and share with them how to cope and get closure? I would
rather take the negative and turn it into something positive rather than spend
the rest of my life dwelling on the past.  

Wouldn’t you?

25 Comments

  1. Peachy Adarne

    October 17, 2015 at 12:56 am

    Sometimes that's just what we need .. to let go. I'm also still in the process of letting go of some of the things in my life.

  2. mimicutelips

    October 6, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    I totally understand the need of letting my past go. I can't change it but I don't want it to consume my life. I have to go on. Sounds like you are on the right path. – Mimi MimiCuteLips Green

  3. Rebecca Swenor

    October 6, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    This is so inspiring to me at this point in my life. There is so much going on and I always tend to do the what if which isn't good for me. Thanks so much for sharing and I do so agree we have to let go.

  4. Ashleigh Walls

    October 3, 2015 at 10:31 pm

    It can be tough to move on from some things. Having a great support system is always good.

  5. Yona Williams

    October 3, 2015 at 9:56 pm

    The past is a powerful thing, and it is up to us, as individuals, to choose whether or not to let it define us (for the good or the bad). Writing a book is a great choice.

  6. Shaney Vijendranath

    October 3, 2015 at 7:05 am

    Sometimes letting go is extremely hard but we need to do it in order to move on to more positive things.

  7. kat b

    October 3, 2015 at 1:21 am

    What a wonderful post. I'm sorry to hear of some of the bad things you had to go through. I'm glad you're moving on and letting go of the past. Sometimes that's all we need to do to get through the days.

  8. Chubskulit Rose

    October 2, 2015 at 8:14 pm

    Your post reminds me of my husband and I's conversation this morning when we went for a walk at his choldhood neighborhood. He said it is so different now.

  9. Esme Sy

    October 2, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    You can't move on until you let go. It's hard, but once you let go, you'll realize that things will be easier for you.

  10. Six Time Mommy TEST

    October 2, 2015 at 4:29 pm

    It can be so hard to let go and move on but it's super important to be able to. I love that quote from Ms Grey! – Jeanine

  11. Eileen

    October 2, 2015 at 12:02 pm

    Thanks for this great inspirational read. Life is never meant to be without frustration, failure and defeat. It is how we survive and move forward that matters.

  12. Deal Match Maker

    October 2, 2015 at 5:48 am

    Beautiful post. I try to move on and wait for good things to come into my life.

  13. Liz Mays

    October 2, 2015 at 4:25 am

    Yes, absolutely turn it into something good. It also sounds like you'll be helping other people through a book!

  14. Clarissa Esquivel

    October 2, 2015 at 2:00 am

    This is so inspirational. Its crazy how someone else words are your exact thoughts! Thank you for this.

  15. Mrs ABC

    October 2, 2015 at 1:42 am

    letting go and moving on can be so incredibly difficult. i can't tell if it's harder to forgive myself for these things or others. such a truly difficult thing.

  16. Crissy

    October 2, 2015 at 1:25 am

    Love this introspective post. It can be difficult to truly let go and move on but I do agree that it's essential for finding new peace.

  17. Kori Tomelden

    October 2, 2015 at 1:19 am

    It's definitely a hard lesson to learn but an important one, I think. There have definitely been times in my life that I've had a hard time letting go.

  18. Stephen Parry

    October 1, 2015 at 11:57 pm

    Wow what a beautiful and inspirational post! Letting go can be so so tough. Thank you for sharing this with all of us 🙂

  19. Ben Butler

    October 1, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    Letting go can be really difficult. Moving on can be even harder. There are things in my life that I'm still trying to get past after years.

  20. Jeannette

    October 1, 2015 at 7:26 pm

    Letting go and moving on is not so easy to do. I know with me it took a long time to let go, but when I did there was a freedom that I had not felt before, so now I try to let go much sooner than I used to.

  21. Masshole Mommy

    October 1, 2015 at 7:00 pm

    Sometimes it is really hard to let go. I think everything happens for a reason, though, and we learn from it all – good and bad.

  22. Katrina R

    June 30, 2015 at 7:14 am

    Very inspiring words! Moving on is something that I used to have a hard time doing, but I've learned over the last few years that I was hi sering myself with all the burdens that I didn't let go and move past. It's still a lesson that I find valuable. Great post! 🙂

  23. Michelle Hwee

    June 26, 2015 at 3:01 am

    Beautiful post, you are always so inspirational!! Letting go for me is one of the toughest things in the world. I get so used to something that change is so hard!

  24. Brandi Hayden

    June 25, 2015 at 11:04 pm

    I love the quote by Meredith Grey. This is an awesome post! You wrote this perfectly.

  25. princessbox

    June 25, 2015 at 4:59 pm

    Letting go and moving on is so hard to do in some situations. Since I have started writing a bit myself, I have found that it helps so much. when things happen that make such a deep impact on your life it is so good to share with others. Most of the time you are not alone and can help someone in the long run.

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